Too often, we’re sabotaging ourselves, choosing the wrong partner, the wrong workplace, the wrong food… wondering why we’re sick, why we’re not satisfied with our lives, and why some of us are quite miserable!
Led Zeppelin said it best: “Yes, there are two paths you can go by, but in the long run, there's still time to change the road you're on.”
There are many paths to finding our truth, and I couldn’t agree more with Zeppelin that there’s still time to change the road we’re on! Which road you take is your choice.
One of my fundamental beliefs is that we are all here on a journey. Everyone’s journey is different. It is about learning and growing and enjoying life. In its simplest form, our quest is to be happy, hence the old adage, “enjoy the journey.”
It is almost impossible to be truly happy long term without being true to yourself. In order to be true, we first have to know and accept ourselves. Not only is this the core of leadership, but it’s the foundation of a happy, successful life.
So, how do we find our truth? Some of us might take the long bumpy road, while others might skip down Simple Street. There are so many opportunities for us to become aware of ourselves and live in alignment with what we want.
But before we get into how to mindfully find our truth, let’s be clear that on this journey, we may discover we’re not aligned with what we really want. And hey, it’s not always enjoyable when we discover our misalignments. Often, that’s when those undesirable things happen. Why do you think people have mid-life crises, love affairs, and workplace scandals?
We’ve all had misalignments with our truth. I’ve had many.
In a matter of 3 months, I quit my job, got separated and moved. I was completely out of alignment and although I didn’t recognize it as that over 20 years ago, it is clear to me now. Since then I’ve been able to recognize the misalignments and course-correct faster.
Knowing it’s a journey helps us give up the quest for perfection. In fact, maybe just accept that you’re perfect right now, just like every tree, every dog, every stone is perfect. It doesn’t mean you won’t grow and change. Accepting yourself is critical to being true to yourself and finding that happiness.
We may decide we want to make a change. That’s what happened to me when I realized the life I was living was just not good for me. It didn’t make me happy. It wasn’t who I was. I can’t say that I was fully accepting myself at the time - I didn’t even know myself! The journey has led to that, and the decision to make a change was the beginning.
But it’s not always a conscious decision we make. Tragedies can serve as wake-up calls, inspiring us to do something differently, treat someone special, live life to the fullest.
As I look back over my life I think there were times the universe shook me to wake me up! Sometimes, it had to shake hard.
Other times I’d learn easily by watching someone else mess up. There were opportunities everywhere. And here’s the good news - we don’t have to wait for a tragedy or misery. If you’re not satisfied with your life, it’s a great time for self-reflection.
A few ways to mindfully search for your truth and alignment:
Yoga and meditation Sadhguru has some good guided meditation, as does Louise Hay and Deepak Chopra
Books - The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, Mark Manson - Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz - The Alchemist, Paulo Coelho - Way of the Peaceful Warrior, Dan Millman
Retreats - sources - Don Miguel Ruiz and sons offer some great workshops and retreats. This one at Omega in Rhinebeck NY looks great, I might attend this one!
Journaling - sources for gratitude journaling, etc. - Marie Forleo says gratitude is the number 1 supertool that can transform your life! - Why Keep a Journal with Robin Sharma, good stuff! (Hint, dopamine - and happiness
Create your vision board and high-value activities for your life. This helps explore your truth and align appropriately - without setting competing goals for yourself, like working so hard in one area and sacrificing another. - A few tips from Jack Canfield on Vision Boards
We would love to hear what you do to “find your truth”. Pssst - you may not have known you were finding your truth at the time! Join us April 3 at 2pm EST for The Powerful Truth of Leadership - GRIT® Series Part 1.